In a world where you have been raised to put others first, self-love can seem selfish.
For many, prioritising self-love can cause feelings of guilt.
As a result, many struggle to maintain a committed self-love practice.
What’s even ironic is you are living in an era where the self-love revolution is gaining quite a momentum yet many find it extremely hard to do the work.
Why? Because it goes against everything you were raised to believe.
Most people growing up learned to put others first.
You learned to work hard to make a living.
You learned the importance of success.
However, you have not been taught to keep yourself fuelled for the journey.
Self-love is a fuel. It is the foundation for who you are.
Everything builds on top of said foundation.
And if you often neglect it, that foundation can end up shaky.
Many who have experienced the power of self-love can agree that the power of self-love can be magical.
The moment you start loving yourself, you will experience positive shifts.
Your life will start to move forward with much ease and everything will fall into place magically.
Your health improves, your relationships improve, your finances improve.
And life will start to feel really good. Magically good.
Why It Pays to Love Yourself
Loving yourself first and creating that deep, internal relationship can offer countless magical benefits. As soon as you begin this love affair with yourself, you will:
1. Acknowledge and prioritise your needs.
To create that loving relationship with yourself, you need to be aware of what your needs are.
Without self-love, you will ignore and dismiss your need.
Instead, you will be prioritising the needs of other people like your significant other, family, friends, and co-workers.
Self-love allows you to identify your needs and make them a top priority.
It’s about attending to your needs.
It’s about making yourself a priority.
2. Develop a true sense of self.
Bid codependency goodbye!
Self-love pushes you to take care of your own needs.
You will learn to give to yourself.
In the process, you can become the person you have always wanted to be.
You will celebrate the freedom and beauty of being true to who you really are.
More importantly, you will achieve a solidified sense of who you truly are.
Loving yourself unconditionally will ground you into your true self.
3. Set loving boundaries.
As your self-love grows, so will your ability to determine what is good and not good for you.
Simply put, the more you love yourself, the less you will tolerate being treated with disrespect.
You will gain the clarity you need to truly understand what you will and will not allow in your life.
4. Avoid self-sabotage.
Have you noticed that when things are going great in your life, you sabotage that feeling by doing something destructive?
Self-love makes your saboteur behaviour go away once and for all.
As you grow that love within you, it becomes a lot easier for you to accept great things in your life.
5. Let go of the victim mentality.
Self-love involves taking ownership.
It involves owning up to your actions and choosing how you show up in the world.
The prime reason you can end up adopting the victim mentality is you refuse to see the role you play in your experience.
Once you love yourself fully, you will start to see your experiences from a totally different perspective.
It is all about learning the lessons and not denying them or letting them get the best of you.
6. Give love to others without feeling depleted.
Flight attendants will tell you to put your mask on first before helping others with theirs.
Why is this so?
Because you won’t be able to help others if you can’t breathe.
Self-love functions the same way.
You cannot give love to others if you don’t have that love within you.
You might feel like you have the ability to love but when you give it from an empty space.
As a result, you will feel a sense of emptiness, exhaustion, and depletion as you continue to give without filling in your tank.
However, when you put your mask on first before attending to others, you will be giving love from a full tank.
This kind of love feels energising and just overall good.
7. Allow you to find your own happiness.
Stop seeking happiness from outside yourself. You won’t find it.
You might experience temporary happiness but you won’t find lasting ones.
Self-love helps you to get your groove back.
It’s simple. The more you love yourself, the better and happier you will feel.
If you want to become in charge of your own happiness, self-love can help you attain it.
Over to You
Let’s set something straight once and for all—self-love is never selfish. It is all about connecting to your innermost needs and celebrating you. It is about honoring who you are and letting go of all your destructive patterns. Loving yourself to the core is magical, it’s a relationship that will magically enhance every aspect of your life. So drop the guilt and embark on the magical journey to self-love