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Why You Are Not Getting What You Want

Why You Are Not Getting What You Want

Have you learned about the Law of Attraction, done your best to apply what you learned, but don’t seem to be able to ever get it to work? And does it seem frustrating to you because you feel like you’re so close, that it’s all just within the grasp of your fingertips, but you’re just missing one tiny piece of the puzzle? 

In this article, we are going to cover the problem that most of us have with not getting what you want relative to the Law of Attraction, how to tell the universe what you want, why you shouldn’t face reality, and the problem with setting goals. 

Let’s find out, why your not getting what you want!

The Problem Most Of Us Have Getting What We Want

The problem that most of us have with implementing the teachings and the concepts from the Law of Attraction is that we are too focused on what we don’t want rather than focused on getting what we do want. It’s really is all about where we choose to focus. Where you choose to focus is extremely important when it comes to getting the Law of Attraction to work for you. 

However, it’s a bit misleading to say that you can get the Law of Attraction to work for you. The Law of Attraction is a law that is constantly operating and working whether we want it to or not. It’s not something that we get to work for us. It’s always working. People say it this way because they don’t understand that you get what you think about whether you want it or not. 

They think that getting the Law of Attraction to work for you means getting everything that you want, and that’s it. But the truth is that you attract everything into your life – the good and the bad. The Law of Attraction is constantly working.

Why You Don’t Get What You Want

The Law of Attraction is a law just like the law of gravity. No one says “I hope I can get gravity to work today!”  It’s always working. And with the Law of Attraction, just like with the law of gravity, we can use it to our advantage or we can use it to our disadvantage.

To clarify, the problem that most of us have is that we are too focused on our current reality. We are too focused on the problem rather than the solution. We talk way too much about the problems that we are having rather than being focused on the solutions. This is the main reason we are not getting what you want.

When we focus too much on what we don’t have, we attract more of what we don’t want. But when we consciously take control of our thoughts and our feelings and purposely focus on the good feeling of what it would be like to have what we want, then we can attract to us what we want. Then it feels like we get the Law of Attraction to work for us, even though it’s always working, regardless. 

How to Tell the Universe What You Want

When you understand how the universe really works, life becomes so much better. One of the things that most of us do not understand when we are new to the Law of Attraction is that the  “bad things” that happened to us actually serve a very good purpose.

When you can start to learn to appreciate the contrast or the “bad things” that happened to you in your life, then you have mastered the Law of Attraction.

The contrast in your life are the things that happened to you that you do not like. It’s that simple. But it is the contrast in your life that helps you to clarify what it is that you truly do want. When you are clear as to you what you do not want, you are then very clear as to what it is that you do want.

When you are clear about what it is that you do want and then you stay focused on it, then and only then will you attract it to you.

Asking The Universe For Help

So this section about how you tell the universe what you want is a bit misleading. Why? Because in reality, you tell the universe what you want by living life and experiencing the contrast.

In other words, you don’t have to do anything to tell the universe what you want. It already knows what you want based upon the contrast that you have experienced and lived in your life.

One easy way to do this is just say to yourself or out loud something like, “wouldn’t it be nice if I attracted this __________________ into my life.”

You get to fill in the blank! When you say the words “wouldn’t it be nice,” you offer a vibration to the universe that is light and easy. There is no resistance in that statement. It’s almost as if you can take it or leave it. And it almost doesn’t matter to you whether it does come or not.

The problem for a lot of us is whenever we want something too much. When you want something too much, you actually sabotage the results from the universe.

Yes, it’s a frustrating thing. It’s frustrating because the more that you want something, the less chance you have of receiving it. If you want something too much or too badly, you give off a resistant, low vibration which blocks it from coming to you. 

That’s just how the universe works. But when you understand how it works,  then you can use it to your advantage.

Why You Shouldn’t Face Reality

This may seem like a very strange statement to not face reality. And it’s probably not a good idea to go around saying this to people who don’t already understand what this means. You may find one of your friends or relatives trying to commit you! 

However, from the teachings from The Law of Attraction what this means is this –   the thought and feelings or vibrations that you have offered in your past created your current reality. So, your current reality is actually old news. Your current reality is the result of things that you thought and felt in the past.

And your current thoughts and feelings are creating your future reality. So the point is that you shouldn’t face reality because reality is old news. This leads to a very important statement: 

Rather than face reality, what you want to do is to create reality.

Create Your Own Reality

And, how do you do that?

You do that by focusing on the things that you can appreciate in your life. You do that by looking at the bright side of everything in the world and in your life and with everybody else. You do that by being unconditionally loving to your spouse, your children, to your friends, your neighbors and to everyone who you can. You do that by living an unconditional life. You do that by being your best self at all times and not allowing anyone nor anything to bring your vibration down.

You do that by being your real, true self. Your real true self is your inner-being self. And your inner being self is actually a part of Source energy. And source energy is really just another way of saying “God” but without all of the judgemental aspects. 

You are a powerful spiritual being having a human existence. That’s the bottom line. That’s who you really are. And when you start to embrace who you really are from a place of appreciation, love, well-being, unconditional love, and in all of those higher vibratory feelings like passion, excitement and interest, then life becomes so much easier. Life becomes so much more abundant.

Life becomes so much more fun. Life becomes so much more passionate. And because you have that momentum, then it will just get better and better and better. The momentum will carry you on to better and better experiences. 

Life is supposed to be fun. You’re supposed to be enjoying every single minute of it. But it all starts from within. It all the starts from inside of you.  It all starts with your conscious decision to purposely take control of your thoughts and your feelings by thinking good feeling thoughts on purpose. 

That is how you create your reality.

The Problem with Setting Goals

Many personal development and self-help teachers focus on how to set goals and how to obtain them. But the problem with setting goals is that for most of us, goals stress us out. And what do we know about things that stress us out? From the Law of Attraction perspective what we know is that anything that stresses us out is not healthy or good for us.

It’s not that setting goals is necessarily a bad thing. But if it stresses you set the goal and don’t make it or you set a goal and you get stressed out because you’re not going to make the deadline, then goal setting is counterproductive.

Instead of setting goals, what you can do is learn to follow guidance from your inner being and Source energy and the universe. When you follow your gut instinct and go with the flow of life, you’ll be amazed at how much more productive you can be, and how much more enjoyable life will become.


According to the teachings from the Law of Attraction, the reason why you’re not getting what you want is because you’re too focused on what it is that you don’t want rather than what it is that you do want. It’s that simple. You can’t find the answer when you’re wallowing around in the question. You can’t be a vibrational match to the solution, when you’re tied up and wrapped up in the resistance of the question. 

Life is supposed to be good to you. 

And when you know how it all works, it can and will be.



I started using the Law of Attraction to make a better life for myself and my family. I tried many methods that did not work. Luckily I stumbled upon a technique which changed my life for the better. I taught me family, friends and decided to teach everyone who is interested in manifesting a new life for themselves. Knowledge is Power.

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